Holy crap, my mind has been blown, The New Monogamy is the best article on relationships ever (or at least the best I’ve read in the longest time).
Bonus: it contains the best freaking phrase EVAR: body-fluid monogamy.
Wow.
Holy crap, my mind has been blown, The New Monogamy is the best article on relationships ever (or at least the best I’ve read in the longest time).
Bonus: it contains the best freaking phrase EVAR: body-fluid monogamy.
Wow.
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Hee hee. Curious… what makes it the best you’ve read in a long time?
are we now subtly broadcasting our sexual mores on our blogs? I’ll add that to my list of “Justin’s blogging rules.” Heh.
Kristina, it’s the best just because rather than kowtowing to what “society” thinks we should do in relationships (a BIG pet peeve of mine), it seeks to describe what some people actually do, and does so in a way that’s completely respectful of the article’s subjects.
Considering what I normally read, it was novel to me. I think the last thing I read in this vein that really moved me was Michael Warner’s The Trouble with Normal (back in August 2002). Sounds like you’ve got some other suggestions?
Jackie, ha. I guess I saw the article as an exploration of the state of intimate human relationships which is certainly not off limits here.
You might enjoy Against Love: A Polemic. I had a lot of fun reading it. Measured? No. Subtle? No. Funny and provocative? Yes. And totally questioning this idea that there is one way that Love is supposed to happen.
I liked this article that you linked to because, as you said, it was respectful of the article’s subjects. A lot of articles about non-traditional relationships pop onto my radar, and most of them are sensationalist crap. This was better than usual.
I just wanted to say that I am too important to finish reading that article on ‘the new monogamy,’ mostly because the first part of it sounded so terribly naive about human nature that I couldn’t go on. Tell me it gets more realistic.
Ack! Silly, don’t leave us hanging, what do you mean naive?
Nice article. I liked that it was sympathetic to both ‘swingers’ and dyed-in-the-wool archaic monogamists. I think a lot of us are and want to be both and stand on the fence.
…I, for one, don’t think any of it has anything to do with sex. I think it’s all about love and relationships, and WHAT THOSE WORDS ACTUALLY MEAN.
Anyway, off to read the other links posted in these here comments…
I agree, Love: A Polemic is good. Even when you’re in love.
Just to refute the wild allegations that I don’t take book recommedations, this will be the next book I read. If I can find it at the book store.
Heh. There is a big difference between “You should read…” and “You might like to read…” (if the latter is said in an unthreatening manner. :-)